In this episode, you will hear the voices of women who have over 230 years between them walking this planet. My mom and two Aunts join me in a conversation that will inspire and surprise you.
2:00 Kris gives some background for why she wanted to podcast and hear women’s stories
7:00 My Aunt MJ: retired at age 78, high trauma emergency/surgery nurse in inner city Detroit
10:30 How do you take a step toward doing what you really want to do?
12:20 Vision boarding and Master Mind groups
16:30 I get masterminded!
18:30 Where did MJ get her positive thoughts from? What happens when all of a sudden you can’t live your life. Recovery International with Dr. Lowe
19:30 Panic attacks and not functioning
23:30 Do you know the root of mental health issues when they happen?
24:30 When external expectations from parents affect you
26:00 Church every day, rosary every night on your knees, 3 times a day pray out loud to the bells of the church ringing, visitors had a choice of getting on their knees to pray or leaving
28:30 My grandmother was a college graduate in 1931
29:30 What passes through generations?
31:30 Living with an alcoholic parent who was a great man and beloved community member
37:30 Sin. Sexuality. Makeup is called barn paint in a strict household.
41:30 Strict rules vs. Total freedom for your own kids
42:30 Finding your own way in parenting
43:30 You keep the good from your upbringing and drop the rest
45:00 Someone says to my aunt, “You taught me how to love somebody who doesn’t follow my rules”
46:00 Radical compassion may be more important than old models of morality based on rules, religious expectations, etc.
50:30 Common traits of grandchildren
52:30 Virgins getting married, consequences could be eternal fire or getting disowned?
53:30 A snowstorm creates an sexual ethical crisis
55:30 Doctors refuse to prescribe birth control to a woman getting married
59:00 A priest causes an existential sexual crisis
1:00:30 Living in denial: when you let other people make your choices
1:01:00 My dad almost wipes a shoe full of shit on a priest’s desk
1:03:00 In 1968: Vatican 2 includes the idea that personal conscience is a factor in how to make your own choices
1:04:00 If a system doesn’t support your beliefs, you leave the system
1:06:00 Cloistered Nun life: Linna.Sister Maria
1:25:45 The letter about Communion to the mother of the atheist husband to be
1:28:30 Trying not to lie to your mother even as an adult
1:30:00 Why don’t you speak your truth to others
1:31:00 Girls in the 40’s getting their periods
1:38:30 Birthing in the 1960’s and 70’s
1:42 Skin to skin…not a thing in the 70’s, and, by the way, let’s do that epidural at home
1:43 The trauma of a birth when the birthing woman is not supported and the wishes of the couple not respected
1:46 Kris tries not to get furious
1:49 When you feel excluded from having a say in your birth
1:51 Being mistreated in birth affects your entire life and your ability to trust
1:52 Bonding is something than can happen at any time
1:54 How therapy can help repair any missed bonding opportunities
1:56 Letting go of systems
1:57:10 The power is with the mother birthing: yes, MOM!
1:58:30 The benefits of hospital birth
2:00:00 The benefit of a doula
2:05:00 Sometimes you need intensity of connection in childbirth (This interview has flipped: Kris talks about her birth stories)
2:08:30 This childbirth class is bullshit
2:10:00 Childbirth is big and what about postpartum
2:11:00 Childbirth is spiritual
2:13:00 Postpartum depression when no one is talking about it
2:17:00 My Aunt gives me a dose of reality
2:19:00 Kris forgets to pick up her child from school
Breakdown of minutes soon to come.
4 responses to “GROW podcast: Interview with 3 wise women.”
Thanks for sharing another great podcast. It was so interesting to hear your mom’s & aunt’s stories.
Deb, I am so thrilled you’re listening. Aren’t these ladies wonderful?
Wow. SO interesting and engaging, funny and moving…I didn’t want it to end. Part 2??? I love the idea of interviewing your uncles, too, for more angles and stories. You’re a terrific interviewer, Kris. Thank you for doing this work and widening the reach of these conversations.
I am so happy you listened! It was a total delight to talk to them. They are incredible. Which is why I forgot I was supposed to be picking up Wyatt and had to cut it short! 😉